Love...
Love
yourself and your partner unconditionally.
For most of us not easy...Why?
Because we were not loved unconditionally either.
If we expressed our authentic selves with behavior that our parents, teachers and other
adults didn't appreciate, we were criticized, condemned, rejected, punished, we were not seen and validated for who we really
are.
Why couldn't they love us the way we were?
Because they haven't been unconditionally accepted either.
Because, most certainly, many of our ancestors lacked
anyway love and support in their lives. And what you don't have, you cannot give.
Because they were affraid that we, as children, would
not become good people. Unfortunately, for ages, mankind generally did not know to raise children other then with
the use of violence. And with using of violence, that is exactly how we learned to get
it our way, to resolve issues, when our needs are conflicting. 'Do this and you'll get that', either positive, or
negative.
The message we got and that has been stored
in our unconscious mind, our motor for behavior, is that when we are our authentic selves, there is a big risk that
we will be rejected. It's not safe, to be just 'yourself'.
So, many walk on eggshells, during dating, or, for the
rest of their lives. Or, they are blocked by fear and don't dare to commit on a deeper level ever..or, just don't know
how to allow themselves to be happy..
We are taught to surpress our emotions...to be strong.
But, what is strong? And, in what?
Most of the things we did do 'wrong' as children
and being judged in the eyes of our educators, were often not meant wrongly intentionally. Most
of the time we do now remember the punishment, not the 'crime'.
But, in their fear, they forgot one thing. We were
already good people, we were born joyous and happily.We loved ourselves in all area's. And if not, then there was a
reason for that. Which needed attention as well.
We did not recieve lessons in acceptance of the
other person, without strings attached.
In all our past experiences is the core-essence hidden
for our future relationship issues. And it is in our intimate relationships that
our life lessons are manifesting....and that we get the opportunity to learn the most
Are you able to face that?
Practice Unconditional Love for a while.
If you don't see changes and aren't getting more
happy, it's time to call me, and I use my tools to sort it out, to heal and find resolutions.
And, I would LOVE to help you to help
yourself..
561 860-4883
Forgive the past, feel gratitude for what is, focus on how you
want your life to be, embrace the choices which are always available, trust yourself and others, and just
open your heart for... Love....
Contact me if you want to
learn how to make that happen. Be one of many I've helped to create a happy relationship.
