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" At first I was a curious spectator filled with skepticism, but after seeing and feeling the emotional shifts that took place so quickly and intensely during my first session, I became an admirer of the constellation technique and I try to attend as many as I can. Whether I am the subject or just standing in for someone else, I am always moved and end up feeling lucky to be a part of it all." Sandy Taylor MA

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" I have done a lot of therapeutic work both private and group, in America and abroad.  I have never before experienced such a profound healing in any one hour interaction.  During Carla’s Constellation workshop I was able to forgive my father for not giving me the love and safety I needed as a child. I healed many wounds in multiple layers. Carla's work helped me find peace with my father, grandfather and myself. As a result of her work I have become much more effective in my world and in my counseling work. I have been highly recommending her workshop for my friends and clients."

Valkiria Mayo - Flower Essence Therapist and Metaphysical Counselor.

                       “The Presence of Absence”

It happens that someone who never has met family members living in Europe,  senses the impact of the loss of for instance 60 family members who have been murdered during the Holocaust.

 She looks at me, a bit insecure. “I don’t know if this makes sense to you” “Well, try!” I say. Sivan sighs deeply and begins to talk..” I have kind of feeling that all the people in my family who died in the Holocaust have an influence on how I am. I feel often depressed, and I don’t know why. My mothers sister was killed in the Holocaust along with 6 children. Her brother drowned in a river when he was a boy. My grandmother who’s name I was given because I was born a year after she died. The story in my family is that she was a great, wonderful person. I actually would like to look closer into that side of my family.”

To start with family constellations, we begin usually with the family of origin. We choose people from the audience, who don’t have any information about the client, and they are representing family members, ‘set up’ in the room, which becomes automatically  a so called; ‘morpho-energetic-field.’

“Choose representatives for you, your grandmother, the aunt with six children, and the uncle who drowned.”

Sivan puts the aunt with her children very close together. They all look down, which means in a constellation that they look at dead people, and that they cannot face life. When the grandmother is set up in front of her daughter, she becomes very unstable, her body convulses as if she is crying silently. “ Go to your daughter and all of your grandchildren and touch them, one by one. You too, Sivan, do the same. They all embrace each other in silence.” Now take your granddaughter by the hand and bow to your relatives, both of you, in front of all of them, with one bow.” Grandmother hesitates. “One deep bow. You take the lead .” ( to grandmother). Grandmother and Sivan bow deeply and slowly. “Now look at them, and tell them: “I am one of you”. Sivan does say so. “Look at them”.”Now straighten up a little bit, look at them very clearly, and say: “I’ll carry on”.

Sivan averts her face. “Say it. Look them in the eye and say: “I’ll carry on”. Sivan, deeply moved:”I’ll carry on.” ”I’ll carry on in memory of you.” I say: “Your dead was not in vain,” Sivan looks down. Shakes her head.”Tell them, look at them: “I’ll carry on.” Sivan shakes her head, no.

I ask the aunt: “Tell her: It is enough that we are dead.”

The aunt smiles spontaneously. “It is enough that we are dead.” Sivan covers her face, smiles. “Now, say it again; I’ll carry on” “I’ll carry on in remembrance of you, it’s enough that you are dead.” “look at your grandmother and say: I’ll carry on’. Sivan does so. I ask the grand mother: “Do you want to tell her something?”

Grandmother whispers: “No”. To Sivan: Now stand with your back leaning against your aunt and look forward.”

“Do you have children?” Sivan nods, smiles broadly. “How many?” “Six.” 

”Now look at them, and tell them;”I have six children.”

She does so. Aunt’s children smile. “Now turn around again, I’ll put six representatives for your children, and place them opposite you.

“Sivan, tell your children, ”We’ll carry on”. Sivan, covers her eyes, laughing and crying at once…”Now, go to your children”

I asked the audience if they can see how the dead are changed after this. “That is a very important thing to see. The dead participate in the lives of the living, but only when they have been looked at. “

“Is it alright to leave it here?” Sivan nods.            ”Thank you all”...